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How The Rich Think
Wednesday, September 5, 2012
1. Average people think MONEY is the root of all evil. Rich people believe POVERTY is the root of all evil."The average person has been brainwashed to believe rich people are lucky or dishonest," Siebold writes.
That's why there's a certain shame that comes along with "getting rich" in lower-income communities.
"The world class knows that while having money doesn't guarantee happiness, it does make your life easier and more enjoyable."
2. Average people think selfishness is a vice. Rich people think selfishness is a virtue."The rich go out there and try to make themselves happy. They don't try to pretend to save the world," Siebold told Business Insider.
The problem is that middle class people see that as a negative––and it's keeping them poor, he writes.
"If you're not taking care of you, you're not in a position to help anyone else. You can't give what you don't have."
3. Average people have a lottery mentality. Rich people have an action mentality."While the masses are waiting to pick the right numbers and praying for prosperity, the great ones are solving problems," Siebold writes.
"The hero [middle class people] are waiting for may be God, government, their boss or their spouse. It's the average person's level of thinking that breeds this approach to life and living while the clock keeps ticking away."
4. Average people think the road to riches is paved with formal education. Rich people believe in acquiring specific knowledge.
"Many world-class performers have little formal education, and have amassed their wealth through the acquisition and subsequent sale of specific knowledge," he writes.
"Meanwhile, the masses are convinced that master's degrees and doctorates are the way to wealth, mostly because they are trapped in the linear line of thought that holds them back from higher levels of consciousness...The wealthy aren't interested in the means, only the end."
5. Average people long for the good old days. Rich people dream of the future."Self-made millionaires get rich because they're willing to bet on themselves and project their dreams, goals and ideas into an unknown future," Siebold writes.
"People who believe their best days are behind them rarely get rich, and often struggle with unhappiness and depression."
6. Average people see money through the eyes of emotion. Rich people think about money logically.
"An ordinarily smart, well-educated and otherwise successful person can be instantly transformed into a fear-based, scarcity driven thinker whose greatest financial aspiration is to retire comfortably," he writes.
"The world class sees money for what it is and what it's not, through the eyes of logic. The great ones know money is a critical tool that presents options and opportunities."
7. Average people earn money doing things they don't love. Rich people follow their passion."To the average person, it looks like the rich are working all the time," Siebold says. "But one of the smartest strategies of the world class is doing what they love and finding a way to get paid for it."
On the other hand, middle class take jobs they don't enjoy "because they need the money and they've been trained in school and conditioned by society to live in a linear thinking world that equates earning money with physical or mental effort."
8. Average people set low expectations so they're never disappointed. Rich people are up for the challenge.
"Psychologists and other mental health experts often advise people to set low expectations for their life to ensure they are not disappointed," Siebold writes.
"No one would ever strike it rich and live their dreams without huge expectations."
9. Average people believe you have to DO something to get rich. Rich people believe you have to BE something to get rich."That's why people like Donald Trump go from millionaire to nine billion dollars in debt and come back richer than ever," he writes.
"While the masses are fixated on the doing and the immediate results of their actions, the great ones are learning and growing from every experience, whether it's a success or a failure, knowing their true reward is becoming a human success machine that eventually produces outstanding results."
10. Average people believe you need money to make money. Rich people use other people's money.
Linear thought might tell people to make money in order to earn more, but Siebold says the rich aren't afraid to fund their future from other people's pockets.
"Rich people know not being solvent enough to personally afford something is not relevant. The real question is, 'Is this worth buying, investing in, or pursuing?'" he writes.
11. Average people believe the markets are driven by logic and strategy. Rich people know they're driven by emotion and greed.Investing successfully in the stock market isn't just about a fancy math formula.
"The rich know that the primary emotions that drive financial markets are fear and greed, and they factor this into all trades and trends they observe," Siebold writes.
"This knowledge of human nature and its overlapping impact on trading give them strategic advantage in building greater wealth through leverage."
12. Average people live beyond their means. Rich people live below theirs.
"Here's how to live below your means and tap into the secret wealthy people have used for centuries: Get rich so you can afford to," he writes.
"The rich live below their means, not because they're so savvy, but because they make so much money that they can afford to live like royalty while still having a king's ransom socked away for the future."
13. Average people teach their children how to survive. Rich people teach their kids to get rich.Rich parents teach their kids from an early age about the world of "haves" and "have-nots," Siebold says. Even he admits many people have argued that he's supporting the idea of elitism.
He disagrees.
"[People] say parents are teaching their kids to look down on the masses because they're poor. This isn't true," he writes. "What they're teaching their kids is to see the world through the eyes of objective reality––the way society really is."
If children understand wealth early on, they'll be more likely to strive for it later in life.
14. Average people let money stress them out. Rich people find peace of mind in wealth.
The reason wealthy people earn more wealth is that they're not afraid to admit that money can solve most problems, Siebold says.
"[The middle class] sees money as a never-ending necessary evil that must be endured as part of life. The world class sees money as the great liberator, and with enough of it, they are able to purchase financial peace of mind."
15. Average people would rather be entertained than educated. Rich people would rather be educated than entertained.While the rich don't put much stock in furthering wealth through formal education, they appreciate the power of learning long after college is over, Siebold says.
"Walk into a wealthy person's home and one of the first things you'll see is an extensive library of books they've used to educate themselves on how to become more successful," he writes.
"The middle class reads novels, tabloids and entertainment magazines."
16. Average people think rich people are snobs. Rich people just want to surround themselves with like-minded people.
The negative money mentality poisoning the middle class is what keeps the rich hanging out with the rich, he says.
"[Rich people] can't afford the messages of doom and gloom," he writes. "This is often misinterpreted by the masses as snobbery.
Labeling the world class as snobs is another way the middle class finds to feel better bout themselves and their chosen path of mediocrity."
17. Average people focus on saving. Rich people focus on earning.Siebold theorizes that the wealthy focus on what they'll gain by taking risks, rather than how to save what they have.
"The masses are so focused on clipping coupons and living frugally they miss major opportunities," he writes.
"Even in the midst of a cash flow crisis, the rich reject the nickle and dime thinking of the masses. They are the masters of focusing their mental energy where it belongs: on the big money."
18. Average people play it safe with money. Rich people know when to take risks.
"Leverage is the watchword of the rich," Siebold writes.
"Every investor loses money on occasion, but the world class knows no matter what happens, they will aways be able to earn more."
19. Average people love to be comfortable. Rich people find comfort in uncertainty.For the most part, it takes guts to take the risks necessary to make it as a millionaire––a challenge most middle class thinkers aren't comfortable living with.
"Physical, psychological, and emotional comfort is the primary goal of the middle class mindset," Siebold writes.
World class thinkers learn early on that becoming a millionaire isn't easy and the need for comfort can be devastating. They learn to be comfortable while operating in a state of ongoing uncertainty."
20. Average people never make the connection between money and health. Rich people know money can save your life.
While the middle class squabbles over the virtues of Obamacare and their company's health plan, the super wealthy are enrolled in a super elite "boutique medical care" association, Siebold says.
"They pay a substantial yearly membership fee that guarantees them 24-hour access to a private physician who only serves a small group of members," he writes.
"Some wealthy neighborhoods have implemented this strategy and even require the physician to live in the neighborhood."
21. Average people believe they must choose between a great family and being rich. Rich people know you can have it all.The idea the wealth must come at the expense of family time is nothing but a "cop-out", Siebold says.
"The masses have been brainwashed to believe it's an either/or equation," he writes. "The rich know you can have anything you want if you approach the challenge with a mindset rooted in love and abundance."
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That's why there's a certain shame that comes along with "getting rich" in lower-income communities.
"The world class knows that while having money doesn't guarantee happiness, it does make your life easier and more enjoyable."
2. Average people think selfishness is a vice. Rich people think selfishness is a virtue."The rich go out there and try to make themselves happy. They don't try to pretend to save the world," Siebold told Business Insider.
The problem is that middle class people see that as a negative––and it's keeping them poor, he writes.
"If you're not taking care of you, you're not in a position to help anyone else. You can't give what you don't have."
3. Average people have a lottery mentality. Rich people have an action mentality."While the masses are waiting to pick the right numbers and praying for prosperity, the great ones are solving problems," Siebold writes.
"The hero [middle class people] are waiting for may be God, government, their boss or their spouse. It's the average person's level of thinking that breeds this approach to life and living while the clock keeps ticking away."
4. Average people think the road to riches is paved with formal education. Rich people believe in acquiring specific knowledge.
"Many world-class performers have little formal education, and have amassed their wealth through the acquisition and subsequent sale of specific knowledge," he writes.
"Meanwhile, the masses are convinced that master's degrees and doctorates are the way to wealth, mostly because they are trapped in the linear line of thought that holds them back from higher levels of consciousness...The wealthy aren't interested in the means, only the end."
5. Average people long for the good old days. Rich people dream of the future."Self-made millionaires get rich because they're willing to bet on themselves and project their dreams, goals and ideas into an unknown future," Siebold writes.
"People who believe their best days are behind them rarely get rich, and often struggle with unhappiness and depression."
6. Average people see money through the eyes of emotion. Rich people think about money logically.
"An ordinarily smart, well-educated and otherwise successful person can be instantly transformed into a fear-based, scarcity driven thinker whose greatest financial aspiration is to retire comfortably," he writes.
"The world class sees money for what it is and what it's not, through the eyes of logic. The great ones know money is a critical tool that presents options and opportunities."
7. Average people earn money doing things they don't love. Rich people follow their passion."To the average person, it looks like the rich are working all the time," Siebold says. "But one of the smartest strategies of the world class is doing what they love and finding a way to get paid for it."
On the other hand, middle class take jobs they don't enjoy "because they need the money and they've been trained in school and conditioned by society to live in a linear thinking world that equates earning money with physical or mental effort."
8. Average people set low expectations so they're never disappointed. Rich people are up for the challenge.
"Psychologists and other mental health experts often advise people to set low expectations for their life to ensure they are not disappointed," Siebold writes.
"No one would ever strike it rich and live their dreams without huge expectations."
9. Average people believe you have to DO something to get rich. Rich people believe you have to BE something to get rich."That's why people like Donald Trump go from millionaire to nine billion dollars in debt and come back richer than ever," he writes.
"While the masses are fixated on the doing and the immediate results of their actions, the great ones are learning and growing from every experience, whether it's a success or a failure, knowing their true reward is becoming a human success machine that eventually produces outstanding results."
10. Average people believe you need money to make money. Rich people use other people's money.
Linear thought might tell people to make money in order to earn more, but Siebold says the rich aren't afraid to fund their future from other people's pockets.
"Rich people know not being solvent enough to personally afford something is not relevant. The real question is, 'Is this worth buying, investing in, or pursuing?'" he writes.
11. Average people believe the markets are driven by logic and strategy. Rich people know they're driven by emotion and greed.Investing successfully in the stock market isn't just about a fancy math formula.
"The rich know that the primary emotions that drive financial markets are fear and greed, and they factor this into all trades and trends they observe," Siebold writes.
"This knowledge of human nature and its overlapping impact on trading give them strategic advantage in building greater wealth through leverage."
12. Average people live beyond their means. Rich people live below theirs.
"Here's how to live below your means and tap into the secret wealthy people have used for centuries: Get rich so you can afford to," he writes.
"The rich live below their means, not because they're so savvy, but because they make so much money that they can afford to live like royalty while still having a king's ransom socked away for the future."
13. Average people teach their children how to survive. Rich people teach their kids to get rich.Rich parents teach their kids from an early age about the world of "haves" and "have-nots," Siebold says. Even he admits many people have argued that he's supporting the idea of elitism.
He disagrees.
"[People] say parents are teaching their kids to look down on the masses because they're poor. This isn't true," he writes. "What they're teaching their kids is to see the world through the eyes of objective reality––the way society really is."
If children understand wealth early on, they'll be more likely to strive for it later in life.
14. Average people let money stress them out. Rich people find peace of mind in wealth.
The reason wealthy people earn more wealth is that they're not afraid to admit that money can solve most problems, Siebold says.
"[The middle class] sees money as a never-ending necessary evil that must be endured as part of life. The world class sees money as the great liberator, and with enough of it, they are able to purchase financial peace of mind."
15. Average people would rather be entertained than educated. Rich people would rather be educated than entertained.While the rich don't put much stock in furthering wealth through formal education, they appreciate the power of learning long after college is over, Siebold says.
"Walk into a wealthy person's home and one of the first things you'll see is an extensive library of books they've used to educate themselves on how to become more successful," he writes.
"The middle class reads novels, tabloids and entertainment magazines."
16. Average people think rich people are snobs. Rich people just want to surround themselves with like-minded people.
The negative money mentality poisoning the middle class is what keeps the rich hanging out with the rich, he says.
"[Rich people] can't afford the messages of doom and gloom," he writes. "This is often misinterpreted by the masses as snobbery.
Labeling the world class as snobs is another way the middle class finds to feel better bout themselves and their chosen path of mediocrity."
17. Average people focus on saving. Rich people focus on earning.Siebold theorizes that the wealthy focus on what they'll gain by taking risks, rather than how to save what they have.
"The masses are so focused on clipping coupons and living frugally they miss major opportunities," he writes.
"Even in the midst of a cash flow crisis, the rich reject the nickle and dime thinking of the masses. They are the masters of focusing their mental energy where it belongs: on the big money."
18. Average people play it safe with money. Rich people know when to take risks.
"Leverage is the watchword of the rich," Siebold writes.
"Every investor loses money on occasion, but the world class knows no matter what happens, they will aways be able to earn more."
19. Average people love to be comfortable. Rich people find comfort in uncertainty.For the most part, it takes guts to take the risks necessary to make it as a millionaire––a challenge most middle class thinkers aren't comfortable living with.
"Physical, psychological, and emotional comfort is the primary goal of the middle class mindset," Siebold writes.
World class thinkers learn early on that becoming a millionaire isn't easy and the need for comfort can be devastating. They learn to be comfortable while operating in a state of ongoing uncertainty."
20. Average people never make the connection between money and health. Rich people know money can save your life.
While the middle class squabbles over the virtues of Obamacare and their company's health plan, the super wealthy are enrolled in a super elite "boutique medical care" association, Siebold says.
"They pay a substantial yearly membership fee that guarantees them 24-hour access to a private physician who only serves a small group of members," he writes.
"Some wealthy neighborhoods have implemented this strategy and even require the physician to live in the neighborhood."
21. Average people believe they must choose between a great family and being rich. Rich people know you can have it all.The idea the wealth must come at the expense of family time is nothing but a "cop-out", Siebold says.
"The masses have been brainwashed to believe it's an either/or equation," he writes. "The rich know you can have anything you want if you approach the challenge with a mindset rooted in love and abundance."
Source : Yahoo
Photobook Mart Experience
Thursday, August 9, 2012
Have anyone ordered from Photobookmart before? I chanced upon a groupon deal and seeing so many people have signed up for it, I decided to sign up for my very first photobook deal.
After hearing so much from a male colleague of mine, who did a yearly photobook for his family, I thought it would be fun, though I am not sure which shop he ordered from. I always thought that for a guy who is willing to spend such precious time doing things for his family, is an endearing sweet moment.
How tough can it get, or so I thought? With a little bit of homework done for selecting the photos and including captions for selected pictures as well as some history on the places I have been to, I was on my way to creating my perfect book!
Its not cheap. I paid $49 for an album supposingly worth $103. Several months later, I saw a similar offer for just $29. Sigh.
The starting route was a steep learning curve as I tried to navigate thru the downloaded software. The customer service replies have been prompt and helpful but impersonal and brief. Its like writing emails to a robot who replied with an automated short answer. Nonetheless, its not the worst I have encountered so I should be glad. What is most important is that my questions have been replied.
Once you get the hang of using the software, its actually quite fun but tedious process. One mistake I learnt is not to get the pictures too near the binding because I only realized that after I received my book and its too late. I thought so long I kept the pictures on the dotted line, the pictures would be fine but the dotted line only served as where the book binding is. Gee.
An advantage of using the photobookmart is that someone is there to oversee the process before sending it for printing. A background picture of mine was corrupted and a lady wrote to me, asking me to re-load the pictures but there were no instructions on how I can re-load it because my groupon code have been used and I cannot use it to enter in the checkout box.
Just wondered why they cannot tell me about my pictures being so near to the binds?
The uploading after the end of the project is a nightmare! 5 hours later, the computer is still trying to upload my album to their website. I wrote in to Photobookmart and their robotic answer is that my images may be too big. I can' believe that is presumed to be my fault because you, as a photobook company is in a business where speed and bandwidth are of utmost importance and heavy images are bound to happen, how can you blame it on a consumer who did not even utilize to the maximum of 40 pages?
With the current better cameras in the market boasting of bigger megapixels, I am supposed to compress all my pictures just to suit your slow server? It certainly sounds ridiculous and lame to me.
After 5 hours, where I woke up in the middle of the night to finish off the last step in keying all the details before sending it off for printing, I receive an email 2 days later to be informed that one of the pictures has a corrupted background. With no instructions on how to re-load it, I read the website again and found a simpler way to upload the files to the server. This time round, it took 3 hours. Still long, but better than waking up in the middle of the night.
3 days later, I still did not receive any replies from the lady to confirm if she have received my files despite sending 2 emails to her. Sigh. On the phone, she was friendly and polite and assured me that she would revert back to me.
Later in the day, I was told that my file is still corrupted. Sigh. I decided to change the picture of the background to minimize all these to-and-fro emails which are time consuming and thankfully, everything has been alright thereafter.
I received my book and other than the pictures being so near to the binds, I am a happy customer. The paper is akin to a magazine texture and style. I only wish that I can incorporate more pictures to the cover page. Currently I can only include one picture in the center of the cover page. And I also hope that their customer service can be further improved.
As a Singaporean, we are so used to things being efficient, making us an impatient lot.
After hearing so much from a male colleague of mine, who did a yearly photobook for his family, I thought it would be fun, though I am not sure which shop he ordered from. I always thought that for a guy who is willing to spend such precious time doing things for his family, is an endearing sweet moment.
How tough can it get, or so I thought? With a little bit of homework done for selecting the photos and including captions for selected pictures as well as some history on the places I have been to, I was on my way to creating my perfect book!
Its not cheap. I paid $49 for an album supposingly worth $103. Several months later, I saw a similar offer for just $29. Sigh.
The starting route was a steep learning curve as I tried to navigate thru the downloaded software. The customer service replies have been prompt and helpful but impersonal and brief. Its like writing emails to a robot who replied with an automated short answer. Nonetheless, its not the worst I have encountered so I should be glad. What is most important is that my questions have been replied.
Once you get the hang of using the software, its actually quite fun but tedious process. One mistake I learnt is not to get the pictures too near the binding because I only realized that after I received my book and its too late. I thought so long I kept the pictures on the dotted line, the pictures would be fine but the dotted line only served as where the book binding is. Gee.
An advantage of using the photobookmart is that someone is there to oversee the process before sending it for printing. A background picture of mine was corrupted and a lady wrote to me, asking me to re-load the pictures but there were no instructions on how I can re-load it because my groupon code have been used and I cannot use it to enter in the checkout box.
Just wondered why they cannot tell me about my pictures being so near to the binds?
The uploading after the end of the project is a nightmare! 5 hours later, the computer is still trying to upload my album to their website. I wrote in to Photobookmart and their robotic answer is that my images may be too big. I can' believe that is presumed to be my fault because you, as a photobook company is in a business where speed and bandwidth are of utmost importance and heavy images are bound to happen, how can you blame it on a consumer who did not even utilize to the maximum of 40 pages?
With the current better cameras in the market boasting of bigger megapixels, I am supposed to compress all my pictures just to suit your slow server? It certainly sounds ridiculous and lame to me.
After 5 hours, where I woke up in the middle of the night to finish off the last step in keying all the details before sending it off for printing, I receive an email 2 days later to be informed that one of the pictures has a corrupted background. With no instructions on how to re-load it, I read the website again and found a simpler way to upload the files to the server. This time round, it took 3 hours. Still long, but better than waking up in the middle of the night.
3 days later, I still did not receive any replies from the lady to confirm if she have received my files despite sending 2 emails to her. Sigh. On the phone, she was friendly and polite and assured me that she would revert back to me.
Later in the day, I was told that my file is still corrupted. Sigh. I decided to change the picture of the background to minimize all these to-and-fro emails which are time consuming and thankfully, everything has been alright thereafter.
I received my book and other than the pictures being so near to the binds, I am a happy customer. The paper is akin to a magazine texture and style. I only wish that I can incorporate more pictures to the cover page. Currently I can only include one picture in the center of the cover page. And I also hope that their customer service can be further improved.
As a Singaporean, we are so used to things being efficient, making us an impatient lot.
Bye Bye 2011
Tuesday, January 3, 2012
Its the last working day of the year. How can I not reflect back on what I have achieve this year? Its easy because there's none. Seriously.
I am such a non-achiever that I am amazed at myself at times. The same goals and resolutions that I had in 2010 remained the same as 2011 which again is going to be carried forward to 2012. Utterly depressing!
I seemed to face obstacles one after another that I almost wish that I change my name. When I see others getting what I want that easily, I wondered what went wrong with my methodology in trying to attain that? I wish that I can say that I have succeeded in at least something but well, its not meant to be.
I am such a non-achiever that I am amazed at myself at times. The same goals and resolutions that I had in 2010 remained the same as 2011 which again is going to be carried forward to 2012. Utterly depressing!
I seemed to face obstacles one after another that I almost wish that I change my name. When I see others getting what I want that easily, I wondered what went wrong with my methodology in trying to attain that? I wish that I can say that I have succeeded in at least something but well, its not meant to be.
Wholesale-dress.net
Tuesday, September 20, 2011
It was a nasty experience shopping for clothes from China. A Malaysian blogger shopped from there and so, I thought I would give it a try. I have better luck with the hair accessories though. The items are cheap but the shipping is not. In fact, the shipping is almost of the same price as the total purchase amount.
I decided to share my experience here, in order to prevent more people from being cheated. I bought 3 items and 2 items are not usable. Their after sales service is simply appalling. Good luck to you, if you decide to shop from them.
Item on site:
Actual item is tarnished :
Item on site :
Actual item with button broken and shoulder flap hanging in mid-air :
I decided to share my experience here, in order to prevent more people from being cheated. I bought 3 items and 2 items are not usable. Their after sales service is simply appalling. Good luck to you, if you decide to shop from them.
Item on site:
Actual item is tarnished :
Item on site :
Actual item with button broken and shoulder flap hanging in mid-air :
Updates
Friday, June 24, 2011
I have been away for so long. It just didn't seem right, now that my grandfather is no longer around. 6 months since his demise. Where have the time gone to? Can I achieve something in life, with my grandfather's blessings? Sometimes, I don't know what I want in life anymore. I just want to be happy, but it just seems so near, yet so far.
Recently there have been a major restructuring in my company. It affected several of my close colleagues and I was rather depressed about it. In fact, I have lost many of my lunch kaki throughout the years. I am not even doing 1 person's job anymore. Its been so long but did anyone appreciate my efforts. Hardly.
I have been in the company far too long, seeing too much changes and everyone is asking me why am I not moving on?
I wanted to, but the right opportunity just doesn't seem to come my way. What have I been doing wrong, I kept asking myself? But no answer came to me, just like 2 years ago.
I want to be happy. I really want to, but I don't know how to work towards that. Life is becoming so meaningless for me at times.
Recently there have been a major restructuring in my company. It affected several of my close colleagues and I was rather depressed about it. In fact, I have lost many of my lunch kaki throughout the years. I am not even doing 1 person's job anymore. Its been so long but did anyone appreciate my efforts. Hardly.
I have been in the company far too long, seeing too much changes and everyone is asking me why am I not moving on?
I wanted to, but the right opportunity just doesn't seem to come my way. What have I been doing wrong, I kept asking myself? But no answer came to me, just like 2 years ago.
I want to be happy. I really want to, but I don't know how to work towards that. Life is becoming so meaningless for me at times.
Cremation of my Grandfather
Wednesday, December 29, 2010
At 630pm, we proceed to Mandai Crematorium. The time is actually very late because its all fully booked the whole day and 730pm is the earliest slot when we called up on Sunday.
Gee. How come so many people died recently?
Cremation is the process by which the Deceased’s body is exposed to extreme heat (1800 to 2000 degree Fahrenheit) for 2 hours. Through this process, the body is reduced to bone fragment (or ashes), to be collected by family members for its final resting place.
I had been to Vernon Crematorium several years ago (1994 and 2002) where I get to see how my paternal grandparents get pushed into the fire. It was terrible, seeing your loved ones going into the fire. Whom you used to smile and chat with, were no longer with us. The physical person who used to so near, suddenly seems so far away and then being reduced to bones and ashes. That indescribable feeling is just so painful that thinking of it everytime made me cry.
And today, I experienced it again. But its at Mandai Crematorium where its more clean-cut as its using a more advanced technology. The place where I am standing, does not have a clear view as the process was done at a small corner. I do not get to see any fire, only the coffin being carried up mechanically and then get pushed into another deeper area where I supposed is the fire area.
Although not seeing the fire made it less painful for the loved ones but just thinking about it hurts so much. I feel so painful for my small sized grandfather.
Dear Grandfather,
I hope you are relieved of the pain and suffering and will stay happy in your new place. Please watch over grandmother and make her better.
I just saw him on 19th December and 1 week later, he was gone. He has been asking my aunties and uncles to cut his hair but no one know how to cut. Wanted to bring him to the barber but he refused. And finally, my auntie promised him that they will cut his hair for him on the 26th December but then they never get the chance anymore. Its something that they will regret most. For not doing it earlier.
They were choosing his photos, to get the best one and realized that we have taken such few photos with him. The last one was dated 2007. When I see the rosy and pink glow on my grandfather in 2007 and how happy he was, taking a group photo with us, the tears just flowed down. I got reminded that he's no longer with us. My grandfather was no longer with us. He's gone. Forever gone. It hurt so much. It really hurt so much. I know I must be happy for him that he has gone to a better place but it still hurts. I just cannot stop crying.
Gee. How come so many people died recently?
Cremation is the process by which the Deceased’s body is exposed to extreme heat (1800 to 2000 degree Fahrenheit) for 2 hours. Through this process, the body is reduced to bone fragment (or ashes), to be collected by family members for its final resting place.
I had been to Vernon Crematorium several years ago (1994 and 2002) where I get to see how my paternal grandparents get pushed into the fire. It was terrible, seeing your loved ones going into the fire. Whom you used to smile and chat with, were no longer with us. The physical person who used to so near, suddenly seems so far away and then being reduced to bones and ashes. That indescribable feeling is just so painful that thinking of it everytime made me cry.
And today, I experienced it again. But its at Mandai Crematorium where its more clean-cut as its using a more advanced technology. The place where I am standing, does not have a clear view as the process was done at a small corner. I do not get to see any fire, only the coffin being carried up mechanically and then get pushed into another deeper area where I supposed is the fire area.
Although not seeing the fire made it less painful for the loved ones but just thinking about it hurts so much. I feel so painful for my small sized grandfather.
Dear Grandfather,
I hope you are relieved of the pain and suffering and will stay happy in your new place. Please watch over grandmother and make her better.
I just saw him on 19th December and 1 week later, he was gone. He has been asking my aunties and uncles to cut his hair but no one know how to cut. Wanted to bring him to the barber but he refused. And finally, my auntie promised him that they will cut his hair for him on the 26th December but then they never get the chance anymore. Its something that they will regret most. For not doing it earlier.
They were choosing his photos, to get the best one and realized that we have taken such few photos with him. The last one was dated 2007. When I see the rosy and pink glow on my grandfather in 2007 and how happy he was, taking a group photo with us, the tears just flowed down. I got reminded that he's no longer with us. My grandfather was no longer with us. He's gone. Forever gone. It hurt so much. It really hurt so much. I know I must be happy for him that he has gone to a better place but it still hurts. I just cannot stop crying.
The Demise Of My Grandfather
Monday, December 27, 2010
This morning, my mum called me to inform me that my grandfather has passed away in his sleep at 630am. It was such a shocking piece of news. Since my last post , my grandfather have been getting really frail and weak. It was heartwrenching to see him being reduced to just bones and skin.
I visited him on last Sunday and to think that, that was my last time seeing him alive. He was just lying in his bed the whole day. Not eating well and not feeling well.
Before his death, he fell down and lost alot of blood on his head. But the doctor told us, he died due to cancer. I wondered if doctors do analyze the cause of death before coming to any conclusion. How can a doctor publish a verdict by just checking on him in his room for a short while?
His lung cancer have been in remission for the past few years and he's not even a smoker.
The make-up that he had, made him into a different person, almost like he's not our grandfather anymore. The thick gunk and the white face. The hollow cheeks and the sharp nose.
Just looking at his face in the coffin had me sobbing like crazy.
It seems such an ironical weekend, with celebrations on Xmas day with my parents in the afternoon and friends in the evening and then mourning for my grandfather the next day.
Its going to be a sad Xmas from next year onwards as we get reminded of his death anniversary.
Looking at the brighter side of things, at least, its a break from his misery.
I wish that He has brought him to a happier and comfortable place. I wish him well and hope that he will be happy wherever he is.
Thank you for being my grandfather. I love you.
Its something that the reserved Asians never say to our loved ones.
Looking at him during the wake, its such a far cry from the healthier him during CNY this year. Playing poker cards with us, losing money and lamenting about it. Within a year, he had fallen sick, in and out of hospitals and now he's no longer with us.
We will forever keep you in our hearts, grandpa.
I visited him on last Sunday and to think that, that was my last time seeing him alive. He was just lying in his bed the whole day. Not eating well and not feeling well.
Before his death, he fell down and lost alot of blood on his head. But the doctor told us, he died due to cancer. I wondered if doctors do analyze the cause of death before coming to any conclusion. How can a doctor publish a verdict by just checking on him in his room for a short while?
His lung cancer have been in remission for the past few years and he's not even a smoker.
The make-up that he had, made him into a different person, almost like he's not our grandfather anymore. The thick gunk and the white face. The hollow cheeks and the sharp nose.
Just looking at his face in the coffin had me sobbing like crazy.
It seems such an ironical weekend, with celebrations on Xmas day with my parents in the afternoon and friends in the evening and then mourning for my grandfather the next day.
Its going to be a sad Xmas from next year onwards as we get reminded of his death anniversary.
Looking at the brighter side of things, at least, its a break from his misery.
I wish that He has brought him to a happier and comfortable place. I wish him well and hope that he will be happy wherever he is.
Thank you for being my grandfather. I love you.
Its something that the reserved Asians never say to our loved ones.
Looking at him during the wake, its such a far cry from the healthier him during CNY this year. Playing poker cards with us, losing money and lamenting about it. Within a year, he had fallen sick, in and out of hospitals and now he's no longer with us.
We will forever keep you in our hearts, grandpa.
How Do Your Grandparents Spend Their Days?
Friday, October 15, 2010
Just can't help feeling sad. I visited my maternal grandfather this evening. He has been in the Wellness Ward for the past 15days and this is my first time visiting him, after I came back from Japan.
In my mind, I thought it was a ward with volunteers, social workers and nurses creating activities for the elderly to keep them entertained and busy. I don't know what I was thinking but I thought Wellness Ward should be something like this, isn't it?
Its for keeping the patients occupied in order to prevent them from thinking about other things. Isn't that what its supposed to be?
My grandfather has suicidal tendencies. He woke up each day to find himself wondering what to do that day. He has no interest in anything. He does not want to live any more. He found life to be meaningless. I do not know how I can help him. He does not know that he have been staying in the ward for the past 2 weeks. He just spent each day lying in bed in the ward. I just feel so helpless, so sad. I do not know how I can help him to overcome his suicidal tendencies.Can someone please tell me what to do, before its too late? I am so scared. I have lost my paternal grandparents because they suffered strokes.
My maternal grandmother is in a wheelchair, currently being taken care by a newly employed maid who does not seem to know anything. During the interview, she claimed to know everything. After the interview, my relatives realized she doesn't know how to cook, doesn't know how to help my grandmother, doesn't know this and that.
I do not want to lose my maternal grandfather. Can someone teach me what to do? I am so helpless and just cannot stop crying when I see my lone and frail grandfather lying in bed each day. He is always saying that he is hurting here and there. He has difficulty in breathing. He does not want to watch TV or read newspapers. He cannot walk or stand for long. The only interest he has, is to play chess but nobody in the family has that interest.
Is there a chess club for the elderly? At least I think its a good activity to keep him alert and occupied.
In my mind, I thought it was a ward with volunteers, social workers and nurses creating activities for the elderly to keep them entertained and busy. I don't know what I was thinking but I thought Wellness Ward should be something like this, isn't it?
Its for keeping the patients occupied in order to prevent them from thinking about other things. Isn't that what its supposed to be?
My grandfather has suicidal tendencies. He woke up each day to find himself wondering what to do that day. He has no interest in anything. He does not want to live any more. He found life to be meaningless. I do not know how I can help him. He does not know that he have been staying in the ward for the past 2 weeks. He just spent each day lying in bed in the ward. I just feel so helpless, so sad. I do not know how I can help him to overcome his suicidal tendencies.Can someone please tell me what to do, before its too late? I am so scared. I have lost my paternal grandparents because they suffered strokes.
My maternal grandmother is in a wheelchair, currently being taken care by a newly employed maid who does not seem to know anything. During the interview, she claimed to know everything. After the interview, my relatives realized she doesn't know how to cook, doesn't know how to help my grandmother, doesn't know this and that.
I do not want to lose my maternal grandfather. Can someone teach me what to do? I am so helpless and just cannot stop crying when I see my lone and frail grandfather lying in bed each day. He is always saying that he is hurting here and there. He has difficulty in breathing. He does not want to watch TV or read newspapers. He cannot walk or stand for long. The only interest he has, is to play chess but nobody in the family has that interest.
Is there a chess club for the elderly? At least I think its a good activity to keep him alert and occupied.
Catching up with friends
Sunday, December 13, 2009
A good piece of music, with a quiet environment is what I need to actually sit down and ponder on my life reflections and priorities.
As the year 2009 is coming to a close soon, its time for you to sit down and reflect on this year - what you have achieved for yourself and was it a meaningful year for yourself? Are there things that you can improve further or wishing that you could have have a chance to redeem yourself?
I had a fun time catching up with friends last night over a hot barbeque at my house.
Now that we have reached an age where many of us are married, our circle of friends have indeed expanded to doubled its size.
Our topics have since moved on as the years flew, to more serious topics.
We are all happy for a good friend of ours who have found a guy although they are still in the friends stage for now, but for her to be able to bring that friend to our bbq for a close friends' gathering, its indeed a big step for her.
Her previous partner of 7 years have brought much hurt and pain to her by two-timing her. It took a long time for her to heal her wounds and to be able to step out of her shell to finally meet up with new male friends on her own.
She's finally opening up her heart and we are all so happy for her. Since Xmas is just round the corner, I really hope to give her my blessings for the new guy in her life.
It takes 2 hands to clap in order to keep the flame of a friendship burning strongly.
As we grew older, with more commitments, it can get increasingly difficult to meet up that often but so long each of us made an effort, it will succeed.
For friends who doesn't made an effort to meet up with me, I guess that also tells alot of how strong you value my friendship. Our fate will therefore ends there.
Standard Chartered Marathon 2009
Sunday, December 6, 2009
Despite Standard Chartered Marathon had been held for several years, I was quite disappointed that their race pack collection was 3 days before the race. What a mad rush to collect the pack and where can I find time to wash the top, if I collect on the eve of the race?
This year, their tee was from New Balance ( last year, it was from Adidas ) and the bag they provided was way too ugly and looks cheapo ( last year, it was a nice sports bag) Bascially, the drawstring backpack reminded me of my primary school sports day bag. For students.
Unlike shape run, the race pack contained nothing substantial, not even some sponsers' vouchers to be used.
The race booklet did not even contain information on post run recovery tips unlike other runs.
Well, I just have to agreed that its indeed one of the most anticipated run of the year, since only the run is really the only one worth looking forward and nothing else.
This year, their tee was from New Balance ( last year, it was from Adidas ) and the bag they provided was way too ugly and looks cheapo ( last year, it was a nice sports bag) Bascially, the drawstring backpack reminded me of my primary school sports day bag. For students.
Unlike shape run, the race pack contained nothing substantial, not even some sponsers' vouchers to be used.
The race booklet did not even contain information on post run recovery tips unlike other runs.
Well, I just have to agreed that its indeed one of the most anticipated run of the year, since only the run is really the only one worth looking forward and nothing else.
Customer Service Attitude
Tuesday, December 1, 2009
Its really difficult to get good customer service nowadays or anyone with the passion and initiative.
Take this example, I wrote in to a vendor, asking for quotations on a particular equipment with the interest of getting it for my department. And guess what he wrote back?
He requested for my full name (when its apparent on my company email address), my email address (I almost faint!), my number (with the details furnished on it, he can call my company to ask to speak to me) and my company name ( its almost laughable).
I meant, I wondered if this guy followed a template to ask questions without even thinking about it. I am appalled and disgusted with his attitude and I simply refused to reply to him.
First and foremost, I am a customer and if he wants my deal, he should take the initiative and use his brains before writing such a no-brainer email.
Secondly, why must I provide him with all the details when its all apparent from my email address? Am I suppose to spoon-feed him?
I cannot believe there are such people around, it puts a bad name and impression on the company. I seriously hope he is not the managing director himself.
If you think this is an isolated case, you will be surprised that I met another customer service officer with the exact same attitude. Count their lucky stars that I did not remember the bank and her name.
I wrote in to their enquiry form via their website, asking about a particular account which I cannot remember now. She wrote back, saying that she cannot reveal sensitive information via email but to have me to call her back.
Since she is a customer service officer with a bank, I was expecting her to have very good customer service skills. All it will take is a simple call from her to clarify it with me on the phone, since I have left my IC number and mobile number with her. Why should I call her back?
Recently, as the last weekend was the Black Friday weekend with many USA online stores giving huge discounts, I was tempted to purchase BenefitCosmetics. I received their newletter with promotional codes on free international delivery but unfortunately, I was not able to use it during my checkout on their website and wrote in to ask about it.
The first lady who replied me with an almost zero helpfulness, requesting me to provide more details when its all written down in the "contact us" form to her. I was anxious to meet the deadline and wrote in again and thankfully, I met with a very helpful and courteous staff who eased my concerns.
Although I did not manage to get the product in the end, but her attitude certainly brighten up my day.
" Thank you for writing to us at Benefit Cosmetics.
We're sorry for any miscommunication regarding our free shipping codes. The PRETTY50 code is only valid for standard shipping on U.S. orders. Please enter SHIPINTL at checkout to receive free shipping, as we have checked this code and it appears to be working. Remember, for this code your minimum order needs to be $85.
We hope this information helps. Once again, we apologize for this inconvenience.
Thank you for shopping with Benefit Cosmetics.
Angelica G.
Benefit Cosmetics Customer Service"
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Yakking Away
Monday, November 30, 2009
One just can't feel but notice what other colleagues are doing on a normal work day.
After a major restructuring in my company, we were being merged with another department and hence, I was seated with new colleagues.
Sitting around me are colleagues with very peculiar habits.
Y - watching movies, playing games, reading novels or dozing off
D - watching You-Tube, learning magic tricks
S - yakking on the phone about her babies at different places and different times but always appears when the time is right.
R - getting MCs so frequently that one may think she is sick all year round
G - getting MCs on Mondays when she is tired of travelling back to Singapore from JB on an early Monday morning
E - getting MCs when the sky is crying, guess her sickness does follow the weather.
And here I am, so busy with work up to my neck while there are people taking a fat pay cheque just by doing half the workload. How unfair can life be?
Geox kills my feet
Friday, November 20, 2009
Unknowingly, I have fallen into the trap and become its victim. My very first pair of casual shoes literally almost kill me or rather my feet, leaving me with painful blisters.
I bought my very first pair of Geox D Snake 25 from a very friendly Malay lady at its Raffles City outlet and happily went home with my purchase.
I don't think I have ever been hurt by a pair of casual shoes so much that I almost want to throw it far far away. Retailing at $145, I don't think the price justified its comfort ( or is there? ) at all.
Its a really nice pair of shoes which I fell in love with instantly but why must it hurt so much? On my feet and on my pockets. Nice to look at but not practical to wear.
I have been wearing slippers for the past 3 days because the blisters does not allow me to wear other shoes.
And tomorrow I will be going for my run at Macritchie, hope my feet will be in a good mood by then.
I just wondered why good looking shoes cannot be comfortable?
Can someone out there make shoes that are not only comfortable, easy on the pocket and nice to look at?
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